Saturday, April 10, 2010

Advice, death & Eggs ?

It feels weird to post after being MIA for so long, but I thought today I'd leave some words of wisdom, some pics, and some advice. Aren't you lucky?

I had a death in my family recently, I won't go into details, but suffice to say, death puts a few (hundred) things into perspective. It's always such a shock when you realize you will never see that person again. You remember every small memory you have of them, and you can even remember the way they smelt. What perfume, or cologne they wore, what movies they liked, and these things become something you cling to for a time. You analyze the way you're living your life, & think of things you can improve, you try and explain these things to your kids, & realize that death is inevitable. It comes to us all. For whom the bell tolls, so to speak, and there's really no easy way to ease the blow for anyone.
I've lost a few people close to me, & it never gets any easier - which I don't think it's anything that should become easier, but with time - the hurt morphs into something else. Something you can bear, something that doesn't stop your breath during the day, or have you shedding a thousand tears over the slightest word.

So my advice to you is to hold your children closer, hold your husband tighter, love with all you can and be kind to those around you, because tomorrow, you may not be here to kiss the owie, soothe the "monsters" or sympathize with that hard day at work where everyone else got it wrong, but your man was right on the money :D

So I'll leave you with some pics of our Easter weekend, (which was so much fun, btw) & my head seems to be slowly re-attaching back to my body - when that happens -  more giveaways as well.

Happy (belated) Easter Weekend.
And a shout out to Brother & Sister Degen who have left today (which saddened everyone, while delighting them as well.) for their mission to Nauvoo. The field is ripe & ready to harvest & we wish you all the best, while we miss you fiercely. xx

11 reactions!:

Momma Fargo said...

Cute pics! Sorry to hear about your loss.

Anything Fits a Naked Man said...

I agree. Death has a way of putting things into perspective, doesn't it? Thanks for the reminder to hold those we love close!

Love the Easter pics!

Midwestern Gone Idahoan said...

Joe, I have been thinking about you and wondered if you were okay!! Death is sooooo hard, even if what you believe is that you will see them again - it doesn't make the hurt go away!!! I lost my nephew about a 1 1/2 years ago and it seems like yesterday somedays and forever ago other days!! My heart goes out to you!! Love you!

Susie B. Homemaker said...

Beautiful pics! So sorry for your loss & thank you for the great advice- things we have all heard but so easy to forget as we get caught up in the day to day...

Dee said...

Oh my .. sorry for your loss. Brought back very clearly the death of our Mother, only 38, and we were four young siblings trying to understand. It is never easy, regardless of age. But today, I can say we had more love in the short time we had her than some have in a long lifetime. We were truly blessed. Does that make sense? some days, yes .... others . no.
Be strong, my dear and cherish your memories!!
Pink Hugs!
Dee from deeslittlepinkie

Zen Mama said...

So sorry...It does sometimes take something bad to happen to really appreciate our lives! I love this Kahlil Gibran quote:

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

It helps me in times of sorrow.

Anonymous said...

Sorry to hear about your loss. Great fun with kids.

Jack and Alex Manning said...

Gorgeous pictures, and than you for your timely reminder - you are so right.

parenting ad absurdum

Leeuna said...

So sorry for your loss. Time is the only thing that makes the loss more bearable. Thanks for the reminders today. We often take things and people for granted without meaning to or even realizing that we're doing it. Here's wishing you all the best.

Leeuna's Blog: My Mind Wandered

Lady V dZine said...

So sorry for your loss.

Jennifer said...

so sorry for your loss, i saw you are now my follower so I am returning the favor! Many blessings!

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